Mistake #3: Better Than – Less Than
As humans, we are all prey to the comparison game. Sometimes we feel we are better than others. Other times we feel “less than” either in a particular aspect (physique, status, morals, etc.), or evaluating our worth in general (“I’m not as good a person as she is”). Neither of these states is satisfying. Enneagram stereotyping can be another avenue to play out this superiority and inferiority game.
To conclude that your way is either superior or deficient is merely a coping strategy.
This can be difficult to shift because inner judgments can spring up so rapidly and robustly. Getting even a little more space internally around this can feel like fresh air in a stuffy room.
This is the third of four video posts on Mistakes to Avoid Using the Enneagram. These are offered as enrichment for our awareness, not as ways to tell ourselves that we are better than or less than others.
I hope it is useful to you, and I welcome your comments and experiences on my site.