“I have no special talents. I am just passionately curious.” — Albert Einstein Curiosity lights up when we are in a playful mood, when we witness something surprising or marvelous.  We experience wonder, we feel drawn in, and we feel

Responding to Reactivity (Part 3 of 4) “You’re pushing my buttons!”   Most of us hate the experience of having our buttons pushed.  We can feel helpless, out of control, young, and desperate to stop whatever’s disturbing us.  Someone else’s

You’ve heard the adage, “Awareness is the first step.”  In inner work, this is also true.  Without conscious awareness, we can have the intention and desire to do things differently and effectively no keel in our boat— nothing to keep

As powerful as it can be to learn about your enneatype, it can be confounding to know how to do things differently.  While the promise of the Enneagram is great in opening doors beyond “who we take ourselves to be,”

It’s all about you, but it’s not personal. The quality of our relationships can determine so much for us.  Whether we feel appreciated, respected, content, enlivened and safe— or whether we don’t— can make or break our experience.  Even those

Perhaps you have heard the saying, “When you have a hammer in your hand, everything looks like a nail.” Do you notice that people in your life tend to take a similar approach toward really different situations?  Like your friend

“Cool!” “Yuck.” Many people who meet the Enneagram and discover their core point of view can find it a simultaneous affirmation and a punch in the gut.  It’s as though someone has held up a mirror to our core strategy

Have you ever had someone come up to you and tell you what they think your type is?  Are you more annoyed if they are right or if they are wrong? Every time I teach the Enneagram, I try to