It can take awhile to accept that turning toward our trouble is necessary for a wholehearted life. But once we understand that concealing or bypassing our difficult emotions doesn’t help in the long run, we who are drawn to grow

Despair? It’s horrible.   Helplessness? Absolutely not. Get me out of here. Betrayal? No way! I spend all my energy staying away from that! Inherent in each of our personalities is a persistent approach to try to not feel upset in

Does the idea of skydiving, ice climbing, or drag racing intimidate you? Or thrill you? Or both? Do you dread the thought of heading into the wilderness of your emotions and sensations? Or do you long to immerse yourself in them? Or

Here’s a short video where I share a story and reflections on how we can open to something more than the identities we usually define ourselves by. I hope you enjoy!

There’s been a lot of stir in the US lately about “fake news” and “alternative facts.” Not too many decades ago, people could relax to a certain degree into a defined religious, scientific, or other worldview and assume that it

As someone drawn to working with the depths of our inner territory, I want my devotion to development to be relevant and helpful in the context of practical life and collective troubles. I don’t want my reflection to be a

What if you’ve been missing the memo that your relationship has been trying to broadcast to you? What if all those annoying things about your dynamics and your partner are actually here to help you grow? In this article, we’ll

Why is it that when I try harder in relationship, it can make things worse? Why when we care about each other, do we keep hurting each other in the same ways? Our Enneagram types can, by their very architecture,

Why did I choose this person? It seems they are here just to push my buttons! No matter what I try, they won’t respond the way I want! Do they even care about me? Why can’t I figure this out?