A confession: I used to hate hatred. It’s not that I enjoy hate now, but I see it differently. I wanted to offer you some reflections on this with the hope that they may be of use to you when

In love, how much does compatibility matter? A conclusion you’ve probably heard during break ups is this: “We were ultimately just not compatible.” This could mean any number of things. That matter-of-fact sounding conclusion could mean: We annoyed each other

I’ve only seen lie detector tests in movies. I think they work by somehow measuring whether you believe what you are saying. If that is the case, a polygraph would not be helpful in revealing the lies that we believe

In exploring “telling the truth on myself” it isn’t always straightforward to understand what’s true for me.  Sometimes it’s easier to start with determine what’s not true.I might believe that something is true for me that is simply conditioned by

In this short video, I offer a provocative question for you. This question rocked my world many years ago. And I found it in a most unlikely place. This question woke me up to my soul’s longing, my ego’s fears

When things are difficult in our lives, we can be run even more tightly by our enneagram type patterns. Challenging times can also bring out the less enjoyable traits of our types. Of course difficulty can bring out the best

Enneagram Burning Question: I need help with how my style can feel intimidating to others. I love to argue and wrestle with an issue and some people find great engagement with that style. Others don’t. I need more tools in

Aliveness is ready and waiting for us! But what are the conditions that invite us to show up for it? What supports us to dive in? The summer before I turned 14, I had a soul-expanding experience that holds some

One of the greatest temptations in working with our enneatypes is to judge or blame ourselves for having them. This is common, but futile. We all have types and we all have judgments. And we all have something more than